Going the distance | The Ferris State Torch

If you have found your?self in a?long dis?tance rela?tion?ship for the sum?mer or may be in one start?ing this school year, every?thing will be?OK.

On a?per?sonal note, I?under?stand how long dis?tance rela?tion?ships work. I?have been dat?ing my boyfriend for over a?year, but what you may not know is he lives in California. I?know, shocker. Did I?just hear you just gasp? OK, maybe I?am being dra?matic, but most stu?dents, espe?cially here in Big Rapids, freak out when they hear the word California. They freak out even more when I?tell them the love of my life is a?six-hour plane ride?away.

Now if you are in the same long dis?tance sit?u?a?tion or are ner?vous about being away from your crush this sum?mer, I?have a?few tips for you. First of all, breathe in and, now, breathe out. Good, that?s better.

In order to suc?ceed in a?long dis?tance rela?tion?ship, you need to fol?low a?cou?ple of ground rules.

First rule of thumb is if you do not want to be in a?long dis?tant rela?tion?ship, get out of it. Tell your sig?nif?i?cant other you do not want to con?tinue see?ing them and that is the end of that. Problem solved.

Since you have decided to con?tinue read?ing, I?know you are inter?ested in my sec?ond rule. If you can?not bare to tell your boyfriend or girl?friend good?bye, then do not break up. Do not give up on what you want. It is as sim?ple as?that.

The third rule is you have to trust each other. Without trust, you have no rela?tion?ship wher?ever you are. That includes a?five minute walk or a?six hour plane?ride.

My fourth rule is plan for your future. Living apart is a?con?stant bat?tle of com?mu?ni?ca?tion, plus it can be expen?sive. Think about trav?el?ing from Big Rapids to sunny San Francisco. It?s a?pretty penny, but per?son?ally it is worth?it.

For my fifth rule, you will have to func?tion by your?self. You need to find a?way to fill your days with activ?i?ties so you are not spend?ing all your free time wait?ing for a?phone call. When I?say activ?i?ties, I?do not mean find another roman?tic inter?est. I?mean stay busy with school, your job, extra-curriculars or what?ever inter?ests you wish to?pursue.

If you are afraid your honey will cheat on you, then you have no trust in him or her and you did not fol?low my third rule, trust each other. Are you even read?ing or just pre?tend?ing to look busy while chill?ing in Big?Rapids?

Focus and lis?ten to my final rule. My sixth rule of a?long dis?tance rela?tion?ship is to fig?ure out when each of you will be in the same city or state again. If you have some?thing to look for?ward to, your future will not seem as lonely as you are cur?rently mak?ing it out to?be.

Just remem?ber to be truth?ful to your?self and to whomever is will?ing to go the dis?tance with you. Make up your own rules if you don?t like mine. I?have been liv?ing in a?dif?fer?ent state from my boyfriend for nine months, but with?out him in my life I?would have a?big?ger heartache than only being able to see him once every month or so. We make it work and so do more than half of other col?lege stu?dents in long dis?tance rela?tion?ships. I?think you can too.?n

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Source: http://www.fsutorch.com/2011/07/15/summer-main/going-the-distance-2/

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